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What is it about being human that makes us feel like we need to do it all ourselves.

In fact, that's the very opposite mentality of true humanity. You see, humans are pack animals. We need each other for survival. Yet, we are often driven to figure things out on our own.

Is this the inner child in us who was screaming to our caregivers that we were capable of figuring out how to put on our own shoes all by ourselves?

Or the one who wanted to learn, explore, and risk failure instead of trying to be perfect?

Or is it the fact that we finally have a voice and refuse to give up any sense of power now that we have it?

Who knows?

But what I do know, is that there are some things you must do on you own and some things you must do alongside others.

There are some things you need a guide, a companion, a perspective beyond your own visibility who can help you see things more clearly.

This morning, I did not want to go to the gym. I have no one to answer to if I don't go, which may be the problem. There's no accountability here. So I thought, "what would I tell a client to do?" And the truth is, I wouldn't need to tell a client anything - the simple act of accountability says it all. Clients tell me their goals, hopes, and dreams, then we come up with an action plan to get there. If they don't follow through, I'll know... they'll know, and we will uncover what roadblock got in the way.

Remember, asking for help is accountability. Accountability to look inward and peek into those scared places within that you may feel too afraid to explore.

A reflection of your outer experience shining light on your inner world.

A union, a yoking, a yoga... that's all "help" is. And it's the strongest prayer you can ever make.

Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, because it's one of the most honest, bravest, honorable things you can ever do.

Funny thing, my young boys do not have an "I'll do it myself!" mentality. Mom guilt sometimes makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong because they "should" be telling me that they can do it on their own. But then I realized, they don't say this phrase often because they already do so much on their own. They have permission to try, to experiment, to fail, to make mistakes - to be human.... because my love is not tied to an outcome. It's not conditional on their behavior, it's infinite, without condition - unconditional love.

Also, they ask for help. All the time. Because they know there's no shame in doing so.

So, if you hear nothing else today, know you have permission to

✨ Fail

✨ Fall

✨ Risk

✨ Get messy

✨ Make mistakes

✨ And ask for help

But most importantly, know you are not alone. Welcome to the pack. Welcome to the tribe. I'm here whenever you're ready to dive a little deeper.

Rest in Your Radiance,

Nicole Starr


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